Fixing What's Broken
Conscious Communication: bringing communication up from "auto-pilot" and reactive, to thoughtful, responsive, and above all, intentional.
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Fixing What's Broken
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Listen More, Talk Less
I'll be going into Listening more in future posts, because it really is the Holy Grail of Communication, but let's start with a very simple first approach. You've heard it a million times: you've got two ears and one mouth.
We can easily get caught up in trying to impress, or trying to make a point, or any of the ways we do the equivalent of a "dog and pony show" when we're interacting. Even when it's not a sales or interview situation; perhaps networking or just meeting someone new.
1. Increase your awareness of any sense of anxiety or impatience, and really pay attention to it. When we're not conscious of this, we start talking to fill the void or ease our discomfort. Take a long breath, a sip of water or whatever you're drinking, and keep listening.
2. See if you can figure out what their own lens of perspective is from their language, what they're focused on, and what they emphasize.
3. Ask questions. Good old Dale Carnegie was spot on with "it's better to be interested than interesting." What people are going to remember is their experience of you. The more you're curious and interested in them, the more they're going to open up and share with you exactly what the key is to their "interaction lock."
With all you learn from listening, when you do talk, it will be pertinent, relevant, and connected. If you can put yourself in their position as much as possible, you can give them exactly what they're looking for in that interaction.
And once again, if you want to seriously ramp up your game, reach higher altitudes; catapulting your communication and relationship skills, give me a call 415-826-0478, or email me and let's design a tailored program to fit your needs and desired outcomes. There really is no limit to how high you can fly.
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