Be the Cue Stick
The Integram: an Integral Enneagram of Consciousness; a model of consciousness, including all aspects, for designing practical paths of personal development and evolution.
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Be the Cue
seems most of us live our lives much like billiard balls. We’re just
minding our own business, and another ball smacks into us, sending us
careening off-track. Maybe we’re rolling along until we hit a bumper and
bounce off in a new direction until we hit another bumper or ball, and
that energy sends us off again.
This is a story of reaction. It’s a perfectly reasonable story, if you
don’t have an alternative. That’s where we can flip this whole thing on
its head. Our belief that the way we’ve always thought, been, felt, done
things is the only way we have is completely false. The belief is simply
based in what we see or perceive at first, before we seriously examine
why the Integram™ model is so useful in personal development and
communication. What the Integram™ adds is a kind of inventory, starting
with skills and foibles. That’s great, as it lets us know which muscles
are strong, which need work, and what our starting baseline looks like.
If that was all we learned, it would still be extremely useful and
powerful. However, what I think is even more important is that it
illuminates our relationships to everything, from words to concepts to
feelings. Our relationship to every word, concept, or feeling changes
how we hear it and respond or react. These differences in
interpretations are the most prevalent disconnect we experience with one
The only way to cope and deal with all aspects of life is to be aware – extremely aware - of all the subconscious triggers from these relationships. Then we can understand both the way our interpretation either serves or not, and be aware and able to make the intentional choice or action. If we’re at the common level of autopilot where we’re merely bouncing off the pool table bumpers of life, that will be our entire experience. Good days, bad days, people pissing you off, or thinking we need them in order to feel happy are all interpretations of reality, not reality. And yet, we surrender to narratives all the time, and allow them to drive our lives.
Identifying these non-serving scripts is very much like de-bugging
cerebral software. First we need to become aware that something’s not
working. Then we need to identify the code that isn’t functioning
(serving you) which is usually hiding in our subconscious, so bringing
it to light is step two. That’s where we take all the pieces out of the
box, and lay them out on a table. Finally, we need to replace that code
with new code that does function.
Perception Lenses direct your interpretations; they control the
relationships you have to everything. Understanding why you have
a trigger around being respected or people being loyal helps you to not
just react when that trigger gets hit. You can mindfully examine your
triggered reaction, assess what would serve you better, in a way that’s
still you, and implement a new response to the trigger.
using the same mental process you’ve used millions of times already in
your life to memorize things or establish habits, you can “burn in” the
new response as neural pathways.
What if you could re-route your patterns, so that exactly the things that made you procrastinate, now make you take action? What if you could re-train yourself to regulate your emotional reactions to things that upset you for days, so that they only upset you for hours or minutes? What if you could turn envy into gratitude, anger into mindfulness, or fear into contingency thinking? You can. There’s no reason for you to be in the passenger seat of your own life, wondering what just happened or why things happen to you. You can live a life of intention and design. This is the power of personal training for your mind. You can stop being the ball getting bounced around, and take your rightful place as the cue stick.
Resolutions - Schmezolutions!
People make New Year's Resolutions every year, and it's almost cliché how we don't stick to them. If you put a new coat of paint over the air bubbles and peelings of the past, it won't stick. This year do it differently than ever before.
This year make everything
else possible by de-bugging your old cerebral software, re-coding,
re-wiring, and running at optimal.
Welcome to the Integram, where consciousness meets intentional design. Enjoy!
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Kind Ambition is written for you, as a practical guide you can use right now. It is a collection of insights and actions designed to help you move forward and get more out of your life at home and at work. The chapters hold to a formula of first giving you a new way to look at things, then offering you tangible Action Steps to try them out, and finally some things to notice when you do.
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