What's Stopping You?
Conscious Communication: bringing communication up from "auto-pilot" and reactive, to thoughtful, responsive, and above all, intentional.
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What's Stopping You?
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The Self-Limiting Story
of my previous chronicles have addressed "liberation," or a sense of
freedom as a desired outcome. "Freedom is good, lack of freedom is bad"
seems to be a pretty obvious axiom. At the very least, having more
options is a better position to be in.
* If my story is that I'm successful, and that success shows in my lifestyle and acquisitions, aren't I now trapped in maintaining that image?
* If my story is that that I'm too smart to trust anyone, aren't I locked into a life of distrust and disconnection?
* If my story is that I have to move fast, doesn't that prohibit taking the time to really listen to people?
* If my story is that I can't expose myself by verbalizing my needs, aren't I ensuring that those needs go unmet?
All of these stories block us from having more choices; having choices that could enrich our lives, rather than burning energy just to maintain the stories.
Who You Are is Smaller Than What You Are
When we focus on
our Identity, especially in defining stories, our consciousness is in
cramped quarters. The narrative is about pinpointing who we are,
bringing it all in and down to a central, singular place. All the energy
is pulling inward. This is the opposite of expanding, blossoming,
developing, or any natural process associated with growth. Defining
parameters is appropriate to project management, but not in organic
processes like personal development.
Room to Grow
You’ve noticed that fish and plants
have their growth stunted by the size of their containers. Growth
requires having space to grow into. Any constraints we put on ourselves
will stunt our growth as well. The stories that you tell yourself and
others about who you are limit your growth within that storyline. You
need to re-pot yourself, so you don’t get root-bound.
Want to learn more about how your communication can hold you back or catapult you forward? Come visit the web site, or better yet, contact me and see how we can design a program to fit your needs and desired outcomes.
Conscious Communication - the podcast series
KG Stiles: "Conversations that Enlighten and Heal"Integram™
Personal Life Media - "Coaching the Life Coach:"
Interview Podcast for Evolutionary Radio w/ J. McClain2nd Edition now availableome visit the Blog.
Ever want to create
characters that were so believable, that people forgot they were
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Cover to Cover
And of course
the 800 lb.
Kind Ambition is about you having the tools to slide over to the driver’s seat of your own life. Circumstances will always be changing, seemingly thwarting our plans, but we don’t have to be thrown around by them. You can be in charge of your choices and actions more than you might imagine - yet.
Kind Ambition is written for you, as a practical guide you can use right now. It is a collection of insights and actions designed to help you move forward and get more out of your life at home and at work. The chapters hold to a formula of first giving you a new way to look at things, then offering you tangible Action Steps to try them out, and finally some things to notice when you do.
Kind words for “Kind Ambition”
"If you are interested in success, whether it is in running a large organization, a small business, or leading a satisfying life, you will find a right blend of rules, wisdom and wit in a digestible fashion that will serve to accomplish your objectives. The notion that kindness can be blended with ambition and made to work and serve the "bottom line" is enlightening, uplifting and satisfying."
-Steven Kiefel – CEO, Red Pill Media
“An easy to use guide for anyone who wants to achieve real growth and success. His sensible and practical tactics solve age-old challenges with real, how-to solutions. Best of all, Ian lives his work!”
-Romanus Wolter -
Author: Kick Start Your Dream Business
" We all face obstacles in our lives and careers. Some of these come from within, subverting our conscious intentions. The good news is: they can be overcome. The techniques and processes found in this book will help you on your way."
-Margaret Heffernan – Author: The Naked Truth: A Working Woman's
Manifesto on Business and What Really Matters
Syndicated Columnist: Fast Company Magazine
“A scientifically-based, spiritually-awake, (and smart and funny) guide to making the most of your life. Ian Blei provides the know-how, the inspiration, the structure and all the tools you need in this straightforward and inspirational book.”
-Lisa Betts-LaCroix, Past
President of SF Coaches
" Ian Blei shares his deep insights in simple and straightforward ways. His work continues to inspire me whenever I feel I'm getting stuck in some area of my life."
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