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October 2006 |
Fun-House Mirror Reality
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Conscious Communication: bringing communication up from "auto-pilot" and reactive, to thoughtful, responsive, and above all, intentional.
Remember that saying: “perception is reality?” This seemingly innocent phrase is probably the most common cause of conflict and misunderstanding on the planet. Perception is perception; not reality. We humans have subjective experiences. We take in and organize stimuli in direct accordance with our ego-structure’s happy belief that “it knows” how to do this to best survive.
Coming to terms with how vast the chasm is between perception and objective reality is a step forward in our ability to communicate and connect with one another more effectively and authentically.
Recognizing how and where our perception is a function of our current operating system “set-up,” we can take in more information (like other people’s perceptions, perhaps from the balcony?) and actually grow or evolve, as our own scope is widened. That wider scope includes more information, rather than forcing an either/or conflict.
There are a lot of reasons people hold on to this conception about perception. The clinging is often rooted in identity, a moral/ethos meme, or fear. More and more, holding on to the child-like “it’s all about me” is reinforced constantly by consumer marketing. The more you’re focused on you, the more I can sell you things to make you better or fix what’s wrong with you.
Holding on is rather like a bad habit, with similar limitations, and similar freedoms when we kick it. It’s like living in one place all of your life. You know where everything is - even in the dark, it’s comfortable, you can almost convince yourself that this is all there is.
To step outside becomes both exhilarating and frightening. You know that you are going to become more just stepping outside, but what if something bad happens? How can you stand your ground, if that ground can move? Do you need to stand your ground? Isn’t it safer when you have answers? Regardless of accuracy, any answers are safer, aren’t they? Not knowing might make you look foolish, and wouldn’t that be mortifying?!
Okay, take a breath and relax for a second. All of that anxiety and concern is just another sad bi-product of this early developmental stage. Your freedom and your ability to really connect are waiting for you just outside of that illusionary box of “safety” and “knowledge.” Step outside, relax, let go, and rejoice. You are faced with open space and the Empty Cup.
Ripples in the Pond of Narcissus
As I’ve often stated, communication’s greatest foes are assumptions and projections. The vast majority of these assumptions and projections stem from this one developmental aspect. Our inability to move from the “me” to the “we” blocks our path. As soon as we start putting motivations on others based upon “what ours would have been,” we’re on a sad course that prevents connection. When I don’t leave that empty space for your experience, and I fill it in with my assumptions and projections, I’ve disabled our interaction.
To be able to hear you, I need to silence Me. To be able to empathize with your experience, I need to stop being so immersed in my own experience (for that interaction). If I am focused on my own fear that what I love will be taken away, how can I hear that your concern is about an appearance of vulnerability? I would just project my own stuff on you, and assume that you’re just like me.
Oh Grow Up!
Seeing everything as a reflection of ourselves is a trap and a prison that keeps us separate. We miss out on experiencing each other - really experiencing each other. We derail our communication and miss out on connecting with each other. As products and services become increasingly similar and harder to differentiate, our relationships will be all we have to leverage as Unique Selling Propositions. Communicating and connecting are the fuel of the future of business.
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