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More and more, I’m seeing people realizing that they’ve been working
their butts off, running as fast as they can down a road, and not really
knowing where they’re going or why? Society, parents, bosses, peers all
push checklists at us, filled with what we should do, but often
pretty light on the why.
This accounts for just as much conflict and identity crisis in the
business world. The easy answers are the material ones; it’s all to
acquire stuff, and/or the money for stuff. The problem there, is that
this isn’t a long-term motivator. There’s always something missing, and
just acquiring more stuff doesn’t fill the hole.
We often forget that we’re at the heart of everything we’re doing. We’re
the pebble hitting the water, sending ripples outward in all directions.
Somehow we get into patterns where we’re expecting the ripples we see
all around us to shape who we are. That’s backwards. The pebble shapes
the ripples, the ripples don’t shape the pebble. If we want specific
ripples, we’d better know the size, weight, and shape of the pebble. We
need to know ourselves in a deeper way.
When we look at our identity, how do we decide what that is? There are
labels and roles we can assume, but others can assume those labels and
roles, so would they be us? What isn’t interchangeable, and can’t be
taken away from us? Our Values and the beliefs and interpretations those
Values create. This opens the next can of worms, because as important as
they are, when you ask the average person about their deepest held
Values, the answer doesn’t come quickly.
There are lots of ways I help people uncover and identify their Values,
and one of the easiest is to come at them from the other side. Think of
something that really bothers you. Chances are, it’s stepping on some of
your Values. Let’s look at hypocrisy. It usually bothers a lot of
people, and for many reasons; almost all Values related. It steps on
truthfulness, correctness, predictability and thus security, and more;
all Values. How about family? For some that brings up security, love,
and connection, where for others it brings up the lack of them. Still
When something makes you feel anything strongly, it likely touches on
Values, and that’s why they’re so powerful.
we’ve established our Values, and what we believe strongly in, we’ve
determined the size, weight, and shape of the pebble. Now it’s time to
look at what kind of ripples you can make.
Building Habits; Trailblazing
We’re almost always the ones in our own way. We have a ton of bad habits
and ways of avoiding. And as the saying goes, doing the same thing and
expecting different results is insanity. We have to make some changes,
and that means doing some neural trailblazing. You’ve probably also
heard that neurons that fire together wire together, and that’s really
the basis for most of our habits. We do dumb things mostly because we’ve
been doing them for a long time.
Habits come in many flavors, and while some are overt, some hide in the
shadows doing plenty of damage. In the overt camp we have bad habits
around food, health, phones, and so on. In the covert camp we have bad
habits like fixed and skewed interpretations of events and internal
narratives. These cause easily as much conflict and stress as the
external habits, and need to be changed just as much.
Without going all physics on you, we can all agree that minimizing the
amount of energy you have to expend is a good thing. That said, breaking
habits is much harder than shifting habits toward something that serves
you. If you think of a football player running downfield with the ball
as the bad habit, it’s really hard to come straight at him and stop him
cold. It’s much easier to bump him out of bounds from the side. It’s
the same with habits.
By identifying the habit, we can come up with something that’s very
close in what parts of your brain are being activated, and insert a
replacement habit. Then by sheer repetition of catching yourself and
introducing the new habit we create a new neural path. It’s just like
trailblazing in the wilderness. We head down the well-worn path because
it’s easier. We just need to catch ourselves, stop, and head into the
tall grass toward where we want to go. Over time, the old path will
become overgrown, and we’ll wear down the new path.
Hard to Lift Without Weights
we really need to achieve this is a structure and a process that works
reliably and predictably. Coming up with replacement habits isn’t always
easy, and even identifying the habits we have can be tricky. How many of
us habitually either put ourselves down, self-criticize, or self-judge?
Those aren’t easy habits to shift, but it can be done.
Linguistic habits are some of our trickiest, because they’re the covert
ones that hide in our normal way of going about life. We rarely think
about the narratives that we repeat over and over, and are often at the
core of our issues. Enough repetition, and they disappear from our top
of mind awareness, and become like software applications we blindly
This is why I developed the Essential 10 Minutes™ practice. We need
something that’s fast, easy, and does as many things as possible in the
whole neural re-wiring game. Using this practice, we can reinforce our
deepest held Values, reinforce who we are beyond the roles, labels, and
expectations of others, plan for a future that excites us, determine the
actions necessary, shift our minds from scarcity to sufficiency, and
even have some open exploration of what we’re thinking about or
processing. We can identify narratives that don’t serve us, like bugs in
a program, replace those narratives with ones that do serve us, and
using the practice, iron them into our brains using neuroplasticity.
Of course, there’s our greatest challenge. Do we want to escape the
prisons of our own narratives enough to dedicate 10 minutes a day to
Mindfulness Calisthenics? If we do almost anything for 10 minutes a day
every day for 21 to 28 days, it’s going to become a habit. If we can
develop a habit that increases our sense of self, increases our
resilience, gives us direction, and increases our effectiveness in
everything we do for the rest of the day, it sounds worth it to me.
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