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Freedom - A
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Transformational Workshop in honor of Independence Day in front of the
Conservatory of Flowers at Golden Gate Park.
Saturday, July 12th, 2014
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Free - Language, Beliefs, Habits, & Stories
It’s not that we’re all sleepwalking, although
a case could be made for a bit of this going on. Most of us have
discovered a “survival strategy” whether we’re aware that we’re using it
or not. It’s called “detachment.” We tend to detach from whatever
feels painful, and focus on other things. This isn’t inherently a “bad”
thing, but it can be problematic. When our default is not taking in
information, we miss things; often things that would have served us, had
we been aware of them. Since the higher thinking that makes these
determinations about value or opportunities isn’t involved in the
process, (we’re detached) we don’t know what we don’t know, and don’t
know what we’re missing.
In place of conscious, aware, mindful thinking, we tend to slip into
auto-pilot and rely on our habits to run the show. Most of the time
this doesn’t pose obvious problems. We’ve learned how to walk and chew
gum just fine, so we can leave that to habit and focus on more pressing
Where we do need to pay attention, are the places where our lack of
direct involvement create insidious problems for us; problems we may not
know we have, areas where we’re severely limiting ourselves without
knowing it. So the first thing we need to do is become more awake, so
we can even see what we want to improve.
The Twisted Knot
I listed language, beliefs, habits, and stories
all together for a reason. All four are very tangled up in one another,
which is what makes dealing with any one of them more of a challenge. The stories and beliefs we hold are in the language we’ve repeated until
they’ve become habits. Our habits drive how we interpret things, thus
how we see them, talk about them, and remember them. That drives the
language that we choose, which further drives how those stories become
part of our “reality.”
For example, if we’ve habitually become very polarized in our way of
thinking, we’ll see things in that same black or white manner,
regardless of how gradient they might truly be. This traps us in
either/or choices, even if those are far from the only choices we have. This limitation is counter to free-thinking, which would have been more
likely to bring solutions that serve us better.
Stories and language repeated over time become beliefs. Beliefs become
limiting habits. They’re always going to impact one another, so freedom
is going to be more about untying a knot than a linear process. We’ll
need to loosen up a piece here, and tug on a piece there, and in a
while, the whole thing loosens up enough for us to escape the bonds and
course this comes back to needing to be awake enough to recognize that
we aren’t as free as we may have thought we were. The easiest way to
see this is merely looking at where you want to be, what you want to be
doing, and how you want that to look. Now look at how many times you’ve
come up against the same barriers, the same obstacles, and the same
issues while aiming for that future. It’s as if we’re in a bad dream;
we think we’re opening a door to get out, and it merely leads to another
room. This is the “box” we want to break out of to be free. This is
the “box” we can break out of to be free.
Bars Made of Words
It seems that the bars on our cells are nothing
more than words, strung together as beliefs that we’ve become habituated
to accept as reality. Since we wrote those stories and bars of beliefs
to begin with, we actually have the power to re-write them, and escape
the self-made cells we think we’re stuck living within.
Let’s look at how we impact our lives and beliefs with habitual
self-talk. We’re filled with limiting language like “I can’t, I never,
I wouldn’t,” and those “bars” often hide deeper held limiting beliefs
and stories that are even more inhibiting; beliefs like, “I’m not
enough,” or its close cousin “I’m not good enough.”
The work that Psychologist Martin Seligman has done with “Learned
Optimism” at Penn State looks deeply at our internal communication. The
bi-directional nature of cognitive linguistics makes it a very useful
tool for us. Just as our thinking and perspectives affect our language,
our language can have a remarkable impact on our thinking and
perspectives. In short, we can change how we think by changing our
language and how we describe reality to ourselves.
For example, the somewhat unconscious statement “everybody always does
this to me” is an instant recipe for depression. This recipe includes
pervasiveness, [everybody] permanence, [always] and personalization, [to
me] each of which is an untrue component of a story/belief, that limits
us and locks us in a kind of “prison” of our own making.
What’s great is that our awakened awareness puts us in a position where
we can completely reverse this cause and effect. In a more mindful,
aware state, we can use our language in a non-habitual way. We can use
our intention and attention in sustained, focused ways that break old
limiting habits, and use our language to change how a circumstance
affects us. This gives us far more options and choices. More options
and choices is another way to describe freedom, and that brings us full
circle to our desired outcome: Breaking Free.
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