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"Life by Intentional Design:
Where are you going?"
Managing Your Life
A Good Plan Liberates
spontaneity are tricky to balance, but we must. If we over-plan, not
allowing for surprises, we constantly need to re-adjust our plans. If we
just take things as they come, we find ourselves playing a real life
version of “Whack-A-Mole,” where we rarely feel grounded or on track.
Designing a working balance is a skill-set we need for every part of our
When we don’t start out with a functional design, things tend to find
their own patterns, usually following the natural flow of chaos. Look at
how rivers and our circulatory systems split into multiple smaller
vessels, from arteries down to capillaries. Look at trees and how their
branches divide the same way. This beautiful, natural progression from
simplicity to complexity is at the heart of Chaos and Fractal Geometry.
This increasing complexity doesn’t serve us too well in our lives and
work. Everything dividing into more and more complexity can make us a
bit crazy; feeling like there’s no end to the ever increasing tasks.
It’s like the Hydra; cut off one head, and two more grow back in its
This seems to be a common state for a lot of people; especially in
entrepreneurial circles. They’re trying to take care of a hundred things
in a hundred directions, and are constantly experiencing overwhelm and
exhaustion. They find themselves overextended, trying to cover
everything on every branch, as if they’re juggling at high speed, trying
desperately not to drop anything. Again, it’s not surprising that people
would find themselves in this position, given the process is a natural
progression. It can only be altered by intentional design.
Reversing the Pattern
we look at this pattern in reverse, we’ll see multiple streams coming
together to common arteries. Instead of branches dividing into more and
smaller branches traveling away from the bough, they come together from
the tips of the branches toward the bough. This picture looks very
different. Now we’re seeing complexity flowing into simplicity.
Instead of standing at the pointy part of a triangle looking at it’s
expanded base, we’re at the base, looking at everything converging at
the end point.
The design element required to use this view practically is our old
friend: “reverse engineering.” We need to start from our end-point and
work our way backwards. This can become a challenge in itself. Sometimes
we have a vague idea of what we want the end result to be, but most of
the time, it seems to be a collection of things we’ve been told we
“should” aim for, or have in a certain time frame. The gap between that
future vision and the list of action items we’re buried under is a chasm
We hold to
some kind of faith that we’ll figure that part out when we get there,
and focus on plowing through the action items on our lists; overwhelmed
and stressed out. We need to build a bridge over that chasm, from our
future to our present, without the mystery.
A Structure for Intentional Design
it can be difficult to visualize where we want to be and what we want to
be doing in a few years, it’s imperative to at least have a clue. If
you haven’t picked a destination point, how do you know to head east,
west, north, or south? How do you know if you can do it walking, riding
a bike, or need something faster? Your destination point is going to
drive all your decisions and all your actions. You’ve got to make it
What throws us off is
not wanting to “make a mistake” and have to come back and start over.
Ironically, this is precisely what not having a destination point
ensures. So what are these “mistakes?” Primarily, where we go wrong is
in taking everyone else’s opinions about what we “should” do too
seriously. The odds that they’re more in touch than you are with your
values, your dreams, your capabilities, and your motivations, is pretty
small. Have they taken the time to plan all the contingencies,
resources, and actions for achieving your dreams? Doubtful. At best,
their intentions are good, but they can’t possibly have a strategic plan
for your life designed, better than you can.
So we need to come up with those destination points. If you
start with your deepest values, and imagine yourself as the person who
embodies and brings those values to life, that person can come up with a
pretty good destination point. This is what you’ll passionately and
tenaciously pursue, regardless of what anyone says. Now it’s just about
reverse engineering the resources and action steps to get there. These
become the milestones of your journey. One clean, straight line from
your destination point back to where you’re standing, with regular
milestones along the way.
doesn’t mean being locked into a bad contract. You’re aiming for
something phenomenal, so it’s easier to keep going, but if things
change, you can use this same process to create a new destination point,
and direct your course accordingly. The difference is simply no
overwhelm, no feeling utterly stuck, and no burnout from juggling at
high speed, trying desperately not to drop anything.
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